There's nothing to say.
Each of the comments that were left on Wednesday's post were completely fair and accurate.
O, so you want more?
I was prepared for the violent reaction to Wednesday's post, and each concerned and even pissed comment was completely valid. I respect each of the strong feelings against drunk driving that people posted. Those commenters are, without a doubt, completely correct.
I've never lost anyone to a drunk driving accident, but I'm sorry for anyone who has. I realized as I posted this week: I was the villain in my own piece.
The guilt I mentioned in the title was not about thinking I was "bad luck," as luck clearly had nothing to do with what happened (or worse, what could have happened) to my friends; and could have very easily happened to me. Rather, I have continued to feel horribly guilty that I failed to protect myself and my friends last Friday night. I feel like I unfairly skated through that situation unscathed.
I considered "Lucky and Guilty" my pennance. An acknowledgement of what did and what could have happened. A way to also be held accountable, though not by my insurance company.
But to those that thought that this blog's topic was inappropriate, I've got to say one big "Fuck You." The blog did not glamorize an ugly situation. Nor was it meant to. Drunk driving is what it is: a stupid, incredibly dangerous thing that happens often and with serious consequences, as each of the commenters with personal stories proved.
The blog was intended to begin the discussion that it did, and I was happy to take the fall, because few of us are completely blame-free. Because too many people have IM'd me: "We've all done it..." And because I'm old enough to know better.
This weekend was the first time that the consequences of drunk driving hit so close to home for me, and I realize, that makes me very fortunate. I thought this was worth discussing HONESTLY and without rhetoric; admitting my own personal irresponsibility.
And that's just what I do here, and will continue to do. Cuz I didn't give the URL to my family, and I'm not putting it on business cards. I try to keep the drink/bar/club lists to a minimum (unless they serve the story at hand), but I'm only going to write about what I know (for better or worse...). I promise never to post pictures of people I've never met, and never, ever will you find videos of asian porn posted here just so I can say: "I'm doing something original."
What else can I say?
6 comments:
Look, I read blogs because this sh** is entertaining. Do I expect a NY times bestseller or pulitzer prize winning post??Fcuk no.. People can control you by suggesting sh** and playing against your fears..I learned this like last week..but seriousily, write what you f-ing wanna write becuz i came to this url to read about what you see..not what you want me to see..Keep doing the dam thing and fcuk the pretentious nerds.. Your a grown woman intelligent.and divalicious..do your dam thing.....Have a great Friday and don't drink and drive...
Everybody makes mistakes in their life, as long as you learn from it, that's what counts.
I think most people have either gotten in a car with someon they shouldn't have or driven when they shoudln't and regretted it later. My good friend has a DUI conviction from college and he has to explain it on ever bar application (he's a lawyer) or security clearance check that he does for the rest of his life.
Luckilly nothing happened to me (in terms of accidents or getting hurt) but when I went home once with some drunk chick driving and she ended up with her car in a ditch that was a wake up call. The sex was mediocre too, so it deffo wasn't worth the risk...plus, I think she might've even been a republican. (i think I just threw up a little).
You gave that person's snarky comment much more credit that it deserved. I've known a lot of people who want to shake their fists and scream "How Dare You?! My Cousin Dated A Guy Whose Brother Once Heard Of A Neighbor Being Killed in a DD Accident!!!"
Fuck them, they're much worse than those they deride. I hate those kind of people.
Well, consider me fucked. I definitely meant to hurt your feelings when I wrote the comment, but like most assholes on the internet, I calmed down about ten minutes later. Sorry about that.
However, mister Unique Alias -- I may be condescending and judgemental, but I've never killed anyone. So actually, I'm not worse.
According to your perspective you're not worse. Congratulations, you think you're just fine!
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